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The death ofStephen “tWitch” Bosshas left Hollywood and fans shocked, as many call him a light who brightened any room he entered.
How has the death of Stephen “tWitch” Boss led to more conversations about mental health and suicide, particularly in the Black community?
Dr. Walker:Thedeaths of Cheslie KrystandRegina King’s sonsparked conversations earlier this year. People are hurting. I don’t know if they’re hurting “more,” but we in the Black community have less of the community connectedness and cultural identity anchor that allowed us to weather generations of storms.
The seemingly happiest of individuals, invoking joy and sincere kindness wherever they go, are not immune.
Those tough topics have often been viewed as taboo. Why do you think the stigma exists?
Dr. Walker:I wish I had the answer for this one. The stigma seems to have always been there — that mental health and more importantly, mental illness, is associated with being weak.There are those among us who are disconnected from reality and see and hear things that aren’t there. However, there are many others who struggle with hidden feelings of depression, overwhelming anxiety, and yes, thoughts of suicide. Years ago, a study found that African Americans were more likely characterized as “hidden ideators” compared to counterparts from other racial/ethnic groups.
You conducted research for the University of Houston that was published earlier this year. It shares thatsuicide rates have “increased dramatically"in African Americans. Why do you think the issue is getting worse?
Dr. Walker:There isn’t a way to ethically test the causes of suicide, but in my research, I have observed that those who reported less positive cultural identity, less spirituality, and more stress associated with navigating our primarily white, mainstream society as a Black person are more vulnerable to thoughts of suicide.
What often prevents some who are struggling with mental health and suicide from reaching out for help?
Dr. Walker:Stigma is a powerful drug. Also, if individuals felt that they could get the help they needed and without judgment, I do feel that more people would get help. I am also concerned about a movement in our society to hospitalize anyone who says they don’t know if they want to live or because they are a teenager who is cutting themselves. Every situation is different, but it is important to assess whether someone has access to the means to take their own lives and if they are determined to do so. If they are ambivalent, they may benefit as much from time spent with loved ones and help problem-solving a stressful situation.
Understandably, people in crisis aren’t good problem-solvers. But those who around them can offer to use the ABCs that I talk about inThe Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health:Assumeyou (and not someone else) can help,Be present(put the cell phone down), andCancelyour judgment (because crisis time is not the time to tell someone their situation isn’t so bad).
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Dr. Walker:Again, everyone is different. The most intentional timing is when someone has gone through a recent stress and in particular a recent loss (e.g., job, relationship) that impacts how they see themselves as a person. Reach out and say, “Hey, I know you’ve been going through a lot, let’s get together for dinner or tea or whatever. We can talk about whatever you like.” We can’t force people to talk or accept our help. We can only be there for them and without any judgment.
I was prompted to writeThe Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Healthbecause of the increase in suicide among Black Americans that concerned me — rates were increasing for Black Americans while decreasing for our white counterparts. I’ve learned that many think the book is for people with mental illness, but I wrote it for everyday folks to make a sense of living in a sometimes very harsh world. I believe that we have the tools to navigate our social circumstances, but we first have to recognize that there is indeed a crisis brewing just below the surface.
source: people.com
